The atmosphere was light and there was laughter around the table as the family got together. Sam was enjoying himself, finally able to tell some of the stories about his new manager, but also surprised at how widespread the epidemic of bad management was. The next round of stories went something like this:
Sam related that his manager came to him, excited for some new content sent to her by a provider. It was on a flash drive, and as she wanted to give a copy of some of the content to others, she asked Sam what kind of reusable media the department had to copy the items. Sam mentioned to her that they had a stock of flash drives, probably about 25 in number, that had been left over from an old project and were just sitting in the closet. Occasionally he or his co-worker Ralph would use one for some purpose, and it was handy having them there.
His manager thanked him and headed off to the supply closet. She returned a few minutes later, dashing into her office, her hands and arms filled with flash drives. Pausing for a moment to process this, Sam walked to the supply closet and was greeted with an empty box where there were, minutes before, 25 flash drives for the department to use. He related that, to this day, not one of the flash drives has reappeared for a business purpose.
As soon as the comments about this died down, one of his relatives piped up about something similar in her workplace. Like most offices, her office received little thank you gifts from the vendors they used throughout the year. It may have been a bowl of fruit, some other edibles, or something creative. Usually, before her new manager took over, these were put in a common area for all the employees to enjoy. After the new manager arrived, things went differently. The new manager would take each package and bring it into her office, never to be seen again. Oh, she did say that anyone could come into her office and enjoy the snacks, but she would either stare at the person the whole time they were in there, or the food would mysteriously have disappeared when someone went to avail themselves of something. The manager was always at a loss of where these would go, but was seen many times carrying rather heavy bags out to her car.
Being a good manager is made up of many tiny things. Fairly or unfairly, each one of those things are visible to your employees, who will form an opinion of you based on the actions you take. You don’t need to be perfect, but you do have to have a favorable balance in order to gain the respect of your people.
When you show that you never learned how to share, you give the impression that you only care about your happiness and well being. Nobody else matters. Your happiness overrides everything. If extrapolated into how you are going to deal with people whose work lives are in your hands, what are they bound to think? They are going to think that you will manage them with the same greed that you have shown in your other actions, thinking nothing of them, but only of yourself. And, if this is how you are going to rule them, they might as well take whatever they can whenever they can. After all, isn’t that what you are modeling to them?
If you want a genuinely caring and giving culture, start with yourself. If you only think of you, don’t be surprised when your employees only think of themselves.